The Ultimate Self-Care Tips For Stressed-out Brides
Updated: May 30
Stressed? We hear you! Planning a wedding is mega stressful, even without Coronavirus, and the added confusion and uncertainty it has brought with it. So, our hearts go out to all couples who are trying to plan their weddings, including the ones who have been forced to reschedule their springtime nuptials for a later date. We will get through this together – we promise!
Brides often ask us for self-care and relaxation tips so they can avoid turning into a Bridezilla. And now, more than ever, taking care of yourself has never been more important.
Coronavirus or no Coronavirus, here are some self-care tips that we swear by...
Switching off has never been so important. With all that is going on around the world, meditating or practising mindfulness can really help anyone feeling stressed or anxious.
If you’ve never meditated before, there are some very helpful apps (Calm and Headspace are two that we love!) and YouTube videos which feature guided meditations to calm even the most stressed-out brides-to-be.
Release those endorphins, girl! Exercise is good for the mind as well as the body, so don’t neglect your exercise in the lead up to your wedding. Getting to a gym is out of the question right now – thanks once again, Coronavirus – but that doesn’t mean we can’t exercise at home. There are some incredible workouts that can be completed from home, but if Zumba and other dance classes are more your style, then go for those instead!
Mix it up and do whatever you enjoy, so working out doesn’t feel like work. Even if it’s grabbing your headphones and going out for your one walk a day – if it relaxes you and helps you take your mind over the stress of wedding planning, it gets a big thumbs up!
Make sure you’re eating the right things
And we don’t mean kale, weight loss smoothies, and any other ridiculous thing you might be eating as part of a strict wedding diet. We always tell brides to make the wedding dress fit their body, not the other way round, so pre-wedding crash diets should be avoided at all costs. Being constantly hungry and nutrient deficient does nothing for stress levels – trust us!
Having a good, balanced diet is going to be crucial in the lead-up to the wedding, but being healthy and having a powerful immune system is more important than ever in the fight against Covid-19. So make sure you’re getting all the right vitamins, minerals and nutrients that are going to keep you energised, focused, relaxed, and most importantly, in top health.
Get those 8 hours
There’s a reason they call it beauty sleep! Sure, your wedding MUA might be able to disguise bags under your eyes on the big day, but not getting enough sleep in the planning stages and lead-up to a wedding can really take it out of you.
Even if your wedding day is postponed and you don’t have a new date yet, we recommend getting into a good sleep routine as early as possible. Feeling rested will make you more energised, so you can power through those new wedding plans like a true pro!
Don’t talk about the wedding
Your friends might be onto something when they say that you only talk about your wedding these days. And limiting your wedding talk won’t only be good for your friendship groups, but also for your own mental state. Sure, browse Pinterest, flick through those bridal magazines, contact vendors, and bargain hunt for bridesmaid dresses – but don’t do it all day every day!
We recommend having one or two days off to completely switch off and recharge your brain. Instead of browsing the internet all day long – something we can very easily do thanks to smartphones and tablets, and especially now during lockdown when it seems like we have all the time in the world, but we wouldn’t advise it – set aside an hour a day to think and talk about the wedding with your fiancé, friends, and family, and switch off when the hour is over. Tomorrow is another day.
Going to the spa for a weekend of massages, hot tubs, saunas and overall relaxation is the first thing we recommend. As long as you stick to the rule above and don’t talk or even think about the wedding. We know that this is out of the question at the moment, but all hope is not lost…
If a spa day doesn’t fit into your busy schedule or the budget, or in our current case, the lockdown, then don’t despair. Putting on a face mask and drawing yourself a hot bubble bath is the next best thing – made even better by your favourite book or magazine, and the biggest glass of wine you can carry. Distract yourself from the outside world, and leave your troubles behind.
Do something you enjoy
Read a book, go to the cinema, binge Netflix, hang out with friends*, do whatever you used to do for fun, before he popped the question.
*Again, we know that some of these activities can’t be enjoyed at the moment because of the virus that shall not be named, but they can still be adapted. Instead of going for coffee or dinner with friends, how about a group video chat? You can even watch TV shows and movies at the same time via different apps and online tools, so it’s almost the same as being in the same room together. Maybe even better, as you’re guaranteed the best seat in the house and no one is reaching for your popcorn. Again, if it gets your mind off the wedding, it’s working!
Don’t be afraid to delegate some of those wedding planning duties. During your wedding planning hour – see above, in case you weren’t paying attention – ask some friends to step in. From licking invitation envelopes to making wedding favours to chasing up guests who haven’t RSVPd, there are lots of tasks that can be outsourced. Bridesmaids are tasked with the job of making your life easier, and it should begin a lot earlier than the hen party and wedding day.
We understand that you might not want to give someone total reign over your big day. After all, it’s your wedding, and you most likely have some very specific ideas in your head. And that’s ok. Don’t let your bridesmaids or whoever you have asked to help you go in completely blind. Do the creative work yourself, and ask them to step in when it comes to the menial tasks that perhaps you don’t need to be involved in.
We like sentences such as, “These are my wedding shoes – it would be great if you all had matching styles in different colours. I like them all, so I’ll let you choose”, and “I’ve seen some great bridesmaid dresses on these two websites. I like these three colours, so let me know if you like anything.” That way, you have already selected the style and colour, and even the website, so you’re leaving the little decisions that you don’t need to stress about to them.
We also like, “I love these flowers that I’ve seen on Pinterest. Can you see please get some quotes from these three florists that have been recommended to me?” Again, they can see exactly what you have in mind because of the picture, and even have pre-approved florists to ring. Tasks like this can really save you a lot of time and stress.
Don’t stress about things you can’t control
Everything from the weather to worrying your great uncle will drink too much – if you can’t control it, don’t stress about it. Instead of being concerned about things you can’t control, think of potential solutions just in case the worst was to happen.
If you’re worried about rain, find out whether there will be any covered areas at your venue. And if not, having umbrellas in your wedding colours would be a fun way to take outside pictures, and also to transport guests to and from venues. Don’t sit feuding family members next to each other, and avoid having an open bar if you are concerned about guests drinking too much.